Today I'm thinking about happiness and love. A lot. And I'm wondering if my happiness factor would go up substantially if I were better at this:
It's not that I've amassed a lot of enemies during my 50-plus years, but I'm wondering about the people in life with whom I find myself less than patient, less than accepting, less than understanding. The ones that don't seem to get it right, at least in my eyes. The ones that bug me or don't seem to have much concern for others.
Let's use a recent experience I had with a certain physician whom I found a little deficient in his bedside manner. He didn't seem very caring at all and I wondered whether or not he was even listening to me. My impression was that he was just going through the motions. And when I questioned him about something, his answer had to do with who signs his paycheck rather than how he could best help me. Ugh. It occurred to me that he could easily fall into that enemy category. Was I supposed to love this guy who couldn't care less about me? And when he didn't accurately document my last visit to his office, he fell even farther into that pit because not only did I not trust him anymore, but now I'd been wronged by him. Love him? Really??
So the way I see it I've got two choices. Express gratitude for what he was able to do for me and move on, or let his inability to meet my needs victimize me further and allow me to plunge deeper into that deep, dark place where light doesn't shine and happiness can't possibly prevail. Oh, sure, I'll dispute his report, just to set the record straight, and that'll be another hoop to jump through on the road to recovery {which evidently isn't named Easy Street!}.
But in the end, I think that subscribing to
Love Your Enemies
will be a healthier, happier choice for my overall well-being.
It'll make my heart happy.
And there'll be more capacity for love.
On a scale of 1-100, where is your happiness factor today?
I am sorry about your doctor experience. We just had the same thing happen with the Dr. that took my daughter's tonsils out, I don't like the man and find it hard to look past his lack of care, respect or understanding...I will work on it though! As far as your question goes my happiness is at about a 10 :( I have just had an abundance of bad news lately and it is taking a lot out of me. I am trying to not let it all get me down but sometimes I just don't have the strength. I am off on vacation next week so I am hoping my happiness number will increase :)
ReplyDeleteShawna
Oh, Shawna - I am SO sorry that you're having a rash of bad news. I do hope that vacation will help you to rest, relax, and restore!
DeleteThanks for stopping by the Corner and for your reflections. I've always had so much admiration for doctors so I guess the fact that they're human, too, and aren't always superheroes has burst my bubble a bit.